Eight Myths About Vibrators That Need To Retire — Part 2

For many women, the conversation around desire has always been shaped by silence, shame and fear. Even when you are confident and independent in other parts of your life, the moment you think about vibrators, something in your body hesitates. You may wonder if wanting more pleasure is unnecessary, if it makes you greedy or if it will hurt someone you love. These myths exist not because they are true, but because they have been repeated for so long. It is time to retire them and let your relationship with your body be guided by truth, tenderness and curiosity.

Myth 5: Wanting more pleasure when my sex life is “fine” makes me greedy

Many women feel a quiet hesitation when they think about buying a vibrator. The idea is tempting, but it is followed by a soft wave of guilt. You remind yourself that your sex life is fine. It is not terrible, not heartbreaking, not a disaster, so a vibrator feels unnecessary or even selfish. From a young age, many of us are taught to be patient, low maintenance and easy to please. Over time, our standards for pleasure slowly shrink. As long as things are acceptable, we tell ourselves we should not ask for more. In this mindset, the wish for deeper comfort begins to look like greed.
Yet “fine” is not the same as fulfilled. A job can feel stable without ever feeling like your place in the world. A relationship can be peaceful without feeling deeply connected. Your body can keep going without ever feeling truly alive. That quiet inner voice that wonders if things could feel softer, warmer or more enjoyable is not a fault. It is your body telling the truth. Wanting more pleasure does not mean you are rejecting your partner or asking for something unrealistic. It simply means you recognise that you deserve care that matches who you are, not just what you can tolerate. When you catch yourself browsing, researching or even just admitting that you feel curious, you are already taking a gentle step toward your own needs. No woman is greedy for wanting more tenderness, more comfort or more joy. That longing is not excess. It is a sign that you are ready to treat your feelings and your body as something that matters.

Myth 6: There is a “correct” way to use a vibrator and I am doing it wrong

Before many women even touch a vibrator, the mind can quietly shift into performance mode. You might start wondering if there is a correct angle, a perfect sequence, or a special technique that everyone else knows except you. When you do not feel much at first, it is easy to turn the blame inwards and decide that something must be wrong with your body.
In reality, a vibrator is not a test and you are not here to hand in the perfect answer sheet. It is closer to a blank canvas and you are simply holding a pencil. There is no required outcome, no grading system, no hidden rulebook. The tips you see online are not universal formulas. They describe someone else’s nervous system, someone else’s memories, someone else’s relationship with pleasure. They do not define yours. Your sensitivity, emotions, muscle tension and personal history create a map of sensation that belongs only to you. This is why experimentation matters. The only “correct” way to use a vibrator is the way that feels kind and satisfying to you in that moment. Some days you may crave stronger intensity. Other days you may want only a soft, steady vibration. On some nights, you may simply place the vibrator beside you as a quiet reminder that pleasure is allowed to exist in your world.
Even when sensations feel subtle, slow or unfamiliar, it is not a failure. It is the first chapter of a more honest, respectful conversation with your body. When you feel ready to explore a little further, you can gently get to know your own rhythm with our SHEVEREIGN OWN collection vibrators and choose the one that makes your body feel safe, curious and quietly excited.

Myth 7: Vibrators will “stretch out” or loosen the vagina

Many women grow up hearing that the vagina is delicate, easily damaged and always at risk of becoming “loose”. From first sexual experiences to tampons to childbirth, the warning repeats in different forms: if you are not careful, something about you will change forever. Medically, this is not true. The vagina is not a simple elastic band that wears out over time. It is a flexible muscular canal designed to expand and contract, to accommodate a baby and then gradually recover with rest, care and support.
A vibrator is much smaller and softer than anything that could cause structural change. What people often describe as feeling “loose” is usually related to pelvic floor tension, muscle fatigue, lack of lubrication, hormonal changes or anxiety about being damaged. None of these are caused by vibrators. Studies so far do not show evidence that vibrators change the shape of the vagina or reduce sensitivity in the long term. For many women, gentle internal stimulation can actually support blood flow, pelvic awareness and a deeper sense of connection to the body.
If you feel curious about internal pleasure, you can start slowly, choose shapes that feel safe and listen to your own pace. You can also explore our selection of dual stimulation vibrators designed for comfort and control.

Myth 8: Vibrators are unhygienic and unsafe for intimate use

Concerns about hygiene are completely understandable. What really matters for safety is not the fact that it is a vibrator but the material it is made from and how you look after it. Most modern intimate products are designed with body safe materials such as medical grade silicone or ABS plastic. These materials are non porous, free from BPA and more resistant to bacterial growth than many everyday objects you already use on your skin.

With gentle care, the risk of infection is extremely low. Washing your toy with mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, rinsing well and allowing it to dry fully before storage already covers most of what your body needs. Pairing your toy with a good water based lubricant can also reduce friction and micro tears, which gives your skin another layer of protection and comfort.

When a product is well made and cared for, it becomes much safer than most people assume. Very often the real harm comes from shame, silence and misinformation rather than from the toy itself. The more you understand the science behind materials and hygiene, the more confident you can feel in your choices. If you sense that you are ready to explore gently and at your own rhythm, you can browse our curated range of vibrators for women, where each design is created to feel safe, elegant and reassuring for different comfort levels.